Navigating Toxic Relationships: Breaking Free, Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns, and Guarding Your Heart

The recent episode of The Bachelorette is the perfect example as to why getting physical early on in dating is a bad idea, even if it’s just a kiss.

Charity got conflicted and couldn’t seem to let go of Brayden despite the writings on the wall that they are not on the same page. She even said it herself that it feels like her previous failed relationships! That was a huge sign that the familiarity she is feeling is her unhealthy patterns manifesting in this new relationship/situationship.

In this blog, we will explore the importance of identifying unhealthy patterns early on, focusing on the getting to know stage, and learning to guard our hearts to prevent unnecessary attachment.

How to break free from unhealthy patterns in dating:

1. Acknowledge the Red Flags - It's crucial to be observant and acknowledge any warning signs that may indicate an unhealthy dynamic. These red flags can manifest in various ways, such as excessive jealousy, controlling behavior, lack of respect for boundaries, manipulation, and constant criticism. By recognizing these early signs, you can protect yourself from falling into an emotionally destructive relationship.

2.  Prioritize Self-Care - Maintaining a healthy sense of self is important when navigating the dating world. Prioritize self-care by setting personal boundaries and ensuring they are respected. Take time to do the activities you enjoy, spend time with loved ones, and pursue your passions.

3. Take It Slow - The getting to know stage is an essential time for evaluating compatibility and assessing the potential of a relationship. It's crucial to resist the temptation to rush into physical involvement too quickly. By taking the time to truly understand a person's character, values, and behavior, you can identify any red flags before becoming deeply attached.

4. Seek Support from people you trust - During challenging times, it's important to reach out to a support network of friends and family who care about your well-being. They can provide invaluable insights and objective perspectives on your relationships. I believe Charity would not be in this mess if only she had a coach with her helping her navigate through her experiences with these men, especially Brayden.

Do not fall for the potential. Trying to change them is exhausting and it never works. You are just setting yourself up for disappointment. 

Listen to my episode to learn more on how to navigate a toxic relationship.

Don’t forget that you want to be in a relationship where both of you are aligned and secure. As you’re putting yourself out there, don't settle for anything less than crazy love because it has to be Crazy Love or Nothing.

Your coach

Jackie