The 3 Top Tips I Learned From My Mom Who Has Been Happily Married for 46 Years!

I had a chance to sit down with my mom, who I might add is the real OG when it comes to giving love advice.

I learned sooo much from her! One of the biggest things that I learned from her is the motto, “It has to be CRAZY love or nothing”! She would always ask me whenever I was with a guy, “Is it crazy love?” and I used to not believe that there was this so-called “crazy love” out there, despite growing up with parents who absolutely adored each other and still do after 46 years of being together!

Here are some of the things I learned from my mom to have a successful and happy marriage:

1.  Be a team - It’s her and him against the world and sometimes against their kids, lol, which is me! But there’s so much truth to that!

2. Be a friend - To support my point above, you must be a friend to your spouse. You cannot be a team if you don’t have a good relationship with your partner. 

Like my mom said, when the kids are out of the house, it is just you and him. You should love the company of your person, and really talk about everything and anything, not just about work and the kids. Have the time to check in on your significant other. 

3. Be intentional - Plan things with your partner. Try new things together and travel more! I also learned from my mom it is very important to date your partner even though you are already married and have kids, and I am so grateful for this tip. 

I remember she came to my house soon after my first daughter, Juliana, was born and basically forced me to go on a date. I didn’t want to go. I just loved being with my newborn baby and staying and breastfeeding her, but my mom said she would babysit so I can go on a nice date with my husband. 

I went. I cried. But I am so happy that we did that because Will and I had a chance to check in with each other and keep that romance alive. 

It can be hard sometimes to leave the kids, but being intentional with dating your partner is very important to keep the passion and connection alive. 

To learn more about my mom’s happy marriage and hear her love story, listen to the episode.

And remember, like what my mom always says,

It has to be Crazy Love or Nothing.

Your love coach

Jackie