Attachment Styles: Anxious To Secure

Do you ever feel like you’re always anxious in relationships? Do you always think things like, “Who’s he talking to?” What is he doing? Why hasn’t he called me yet?”

If you do, I truly understand as I was there for years, and this blog will help you dig into it and understand how to not feel like that anymore. 

We will be talking about attachment styles, mainly the anxious attachment style and what to do in order for you to slowly have a secure attachment style - the healthiest attachment style there is and that I have with my hubby.

How to have a more secure attachment style:

1. Recognize your attachment style - The first step to any problem solving is identifying that there is a problem that needs to be addressed.

This will increase your emotional awareness and that is your first step to healing. 

2. Communicate your needs - Working toward a secure attachment requires communicating your needs, fears, expectations and concerns in a respectful way to your partner. What makes you feel secure? What makes you feel anxious? The right person will have empathy and would help ease your anxiety by giving you the assurance you need.

 3. Find people with healthy attachment styles - Growing up with care-givers who also have an anxious attachment can be hard because you don’t know what a secure attachment looks like. That is why seeking a healthy community or role models you can look up to is very important. You can get advice and different perspectives from people who are secure in themselves and in their relationships.

I want you to know, the right person will have empathy, they will make you feel secure and help ease your anxiety by giving you assurance and not giving you reasons to feel anxious and question yourself where you are in the relationship.

Listen to my podcast to learn more about attachment styles.

And as you’re putting yourself out there, remember it has to be CRAZY love or nothing.

Your love coach,

Jackie